Making love is a sublime act that belongs to the natural course of life. There are, both men and women so skillful in the art of love with sexual continence that they can experience at will orgasms and even induce these ineffable states in others, even without physical contact.
When sexual intercourse is perfectly controlled, the various forms of orgasm are a springboard towards superior states of consciousness. It is more than just physical union. Thus, it generates health, longevity and spiritual force. It's also a multidimensional communion that engages the entire being of the two lovers, generating an amazing transformation of the consciousness.
Sex and sexual life is dominated by the principle of polarities – yin and yang. However it is important to understand that the two types of energy are inseparable, it is in fact one energy, manifested under complementary forms. One cannot exist without the other, their interaction is "fluid", and they issue from one another. Therefore, if during the erotic act performed with continence, the man and woman become aware of the play of the two polarities, they have the possibility to become only one being.
Each lover is situated on one "side". When the exchange of energy reaches a sphere of harmony, the two lovers vibrate in the rhythm of one heart. The feeling of having a physical body disappears, all one feels now is a huge energy, vibrating as one with his/her lover. This is the profound, total orgasm of both body and soul.
Many men have had intuitions about these things, but those who are actually capable to expand and go deeply into these special states of mind are quite few, because they usually lose their sexual energy through ejaculation. Women have a greater inborn awareness and control of their pelvic area, and therefore can distinguish much easier between the various sensations and phenomena that occur in this zone. It is also true that women can reach states of ecstasy through lovemaking with continence more easily than men do.
Another aspect that makes the difference between a man’s and a woman’s amorous involvement is that during the lovemaking, the woman does not have a precise direction, she does not aim to something in particular, she just experiences the intensity of all the erotic sensations and perceptions. If she tries to accelerate her own orgasmic curve in order to satisfy the man, she is at risk of losing contact with her own sensations. In this situation, both the man and the woman must know their own rhythm and at the same time to take into consideration the other one’s desires and feelings. Thus, the entire amorous game can be described as a real erotic dance in which the two lovers are the two leading characters.
Another important difference is that of rhythm, in which the feminine orgasm is reached after a longer period of time. Feminine orgasm is an implosive orgasm, while the masculine orgasm is explosive. Due to the differences in the time needed for each of the lovers to reach orgasm, the necessity for the man to become able to control and suspend the ejaculation becomes obvious.
As a conclusion, it can be said that the feminine and masculine orgasms are different from each other in terms of frequency and the level of implication: women reach orgasm with more difficulty, but when they do, they live it with their entire being, expanding their experience to the emotional and mental level; men reach the state of orgasm quite fast, but in the first stages they only experience it very intensely in the body, physically. Thus, in order to reach the prolonged orgasm simultaneously, the woman will have to stay in contact with the sexual excitation so that she can reach orgasm more often, while the man will have to open more on the energetic level, in order to extend the energy resulting from the orgasm to his entire body and being.
The total orgasm appears when both man and woman vibrate at the same rhythm. When their sexual energy form a complete circuit, the two "opposing" poles being reunited. This circuit is represented by the yin-yang symbol, emerging from one another in a perfect eternal harmony. However, the flow of sexual energy alone cannot lead anyone to spiritual achievements, love as well as appropriate mental focus must exist.
Thus, the two lovers can experience total orgasm, in unison, which is a state of expanded consciousness in which their usual limits are spontaneously dropped, limits of their mind are abolished and they plunge into the abyss of beatific void. They discover with amazement the self-abandonment facing the ecstatic experience, the abnegation, the “death” of their egos, the dissolution of time and space, the bursting of a state of unity of contraries. This is the way to resonate with the state of cosmic orgasm. And once they experience such a state, they will never want to go back to what they had before.
Another important difference is that of rhythm, in which the feminine orgasm is reached after a longer period of time. Feminine orgasm is an implosive orgasm, while the masculine orgasm is explosive. Due to the differences in the time needed for each of the lovers to reach orgasm, the necessity for the man to become able to control and suspend the ejaculation becomes obvious.
As a conclusion, it can be said that the feminine and masculine orgasms are different from each other in terms of frequency and the level of implication: women reach orgasm with more difficulty, but when they do, they live it with their entire being, expanding their experience to the emotional and mental level; men reach the state of orgasm quite fast, but in the first stages they only experience it very intensely in the body, physically. Thus, in order to reach the prolonged orgasm simultaneously, the woman will have to stay in contact with the sexual excitation so that she can reach orgasm more often, while the man will have to open more on the energetic level, in order to extend the energy resulting from the orgasm to his entire body and being.
The total orgasm appears when both man and woman vibrate at the same rhythm. When their sexual energy form a complete circuit, the two "opposing" poles being reunited. This circuit is represented by the yin-yang symbol, emerging from one another in a perfect eternal harmony. However, the flow of sexual energy alone cannot lead anyone to spiritual achievements, love as well as appropriate mental focus must exist.
Thus, the two lovers can experience total orgasm, in unison, which is a state of expanded consciousness in which their usual limits are spontaneously dropped, limits of their mind are abolished and they plunge into the abyss of beatific void. They discover with amazement the self-abandonment facing the ecstatic experience, the abnegation, the “death” of their egos, the dissolution of time and space, the bursting of a state of unity of contraries. This is the way to resonate with the state of cosmic orgasm. And once they experience such a state, they will never want to go back to what they had before.